Most people benefit from therapy, but some do better than others. What is the secret you may ask? And is it all about the client? Matching with a good therapist is important, but when the client does not have what it takes, the practitioner’s education and clinical experience means little. …
Often my clients come in therapy asking this question: Why do we suffer in life? Years back I was convinced that mental illness is caused by genetic inheritance or chemical unbalance. My clinical experience has showed me over the years that that is not the case at all. Today I …
One of the most important in the 4 relationship circles is the relationship we have with our family. The lack of connection with our family and roots can have a very negative impact on our wellbeing, but the question is: can we resolve severe family dysfunctions? I would like to …
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At the beginning of 2020 we were already highly digitalised, but the Coronavirus pandemic has changed our relationship with the technology even further. We are now in the 2nd quarter of 2021 and the stories I hear from people are worrying and leave no space for doubt: technology is ravaging …
There’s been so many times when I hit a wall and I felt stuck, unable to move forward, and so many times I struggled in relationships that I simply can’t remember them all. What I remember though is how it felt at the time and the learnings I took with …
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Today I am writing about the values that keep relationships happy and safe. I call them The Essential Values Staircase because one builds on the other and the absence of one makes the others futile. So let’s see how the essential values staircase looks like: 1.Respect/fairness/equality. They are in my …
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When we are born we have no mind. Just a brilliant brain that can be programmed. The question is how do our minds get programmed? The early programme becomes the “Tunnel Mind” The first programme is installed in our minds by our parents, the school and the world around us. …
Coronavirus Pandemic has become the time when we are searching for meaning in a world “on pause”. This prompts us to look deep inside our hearts and what we see is not always pleasant. Because there comes a time in life when… We are questioning what brings meaning and purpose …
Many people have felt challenged in their relationships during this pandemic. There is no doubt that being together all the time is unusual for some of us and demands for new ways of being and new ways of living. How do we cope when the stress levels are going up? …
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I thought I’d share with you a case study from my work with clients to raise awareness that sometimes in our need to understand what’s happening with us we rush into drawing conclusions and put labels on our thinking and behaviour that can be very detrimental to our wellbeing, especially …