Human nature

Is there a plan behind the coronavirus pandemic?

Spiritual teachings suggest that there is scope and purpose in everything that happens in this universe, that there is a lesson to be learned from any act of human kind or the nature around us, as horrendous as they might be. If there is meaning and purpose in any event that Earth will witness, then what is the coronavirus pandemic teaching us all? I will not follow any of the many conspiracy theories circulating nowadays in the world, but my own inquiry process. We have been given our mental abilities to reason, to understand and we are all equipped with everything we need to do it. We’ve also been given everything we needed to live well on Earth and we gave back to the Earth whatever we thought we should. Is coronavirus pandemic a coincidence or is part of a bigger plan? What could be the lesson this pandemic tries …

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5 benefits of forgiveness

We all get hurt in life, but not all of us can forgive and move on.  Forgiveness is difficult in circumstances where the abuse has left deep scars into our hearts and souls but holding onto them keeps reenacting the suffering.  Too very often I see clients stuck in their painful past experiences, unable to accept what happened and unwilling to discuss about it. To find inner peace we need to break through the suffering and avoidance and take action to understand what happened, to accept those experiences and learn from them, also to embrace forgiveness which is absolutely essential for our mental wellbeing. Here are the 5 benefits of forgiveness: Forgiveness lessens our anger and resentment and allows us to feel joy and happiness in life. Forgiveness removes our rumination and the flashbacks of the event and creates mental space for work, hobbies, self-care and social connection. Forgiveness reduces …

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About our default functioning

We come on Earth with a blank sheet of life experience. The family, the school and the systems of this world are molding us throughout life and influence our way of being. Our personality develops as a way of adapting to life and responding to our own needs, but also to the needs of others and the world around us. All our beliefs, habits, behaviours, way of thinking, feeling, relating with ourselves and engaging with others and the world around us are instilled in us from the outside. Some are beneficial to us, but others are not doing us any good. Yet, our programming is very strong and cannot be edited so easily.  Human mind learns to function in a certain way and will continue to run like that automatically, by default, unless we stop it. Luckily, we can take conscious control of our minds and we can design our …

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About our obsession with labels

Almost every day I hear from parents, news and social media about children’s difficulties in school and generally in life. It feels rather bizarre, but parents seem to feel relived when their children receive a diagnosis of ADHD, dyslexia, autism or other “neuro-developmental disorder”. It gives them an explanation for their children’s struggles and somehow reduces the pressure on performance. This obsession with labels is now becoming the norm in schools and in our day to day conversations and children’s behaviour and academic performance is heavily analyzed. Responsible for this is partly the science of psychology, which taught us to measure and analyze mental processes like attention,  memory, language, motivation, etc. and is forcing us all to compete and become “better and better” each day. Nowadays, thousands of specialists around the world spend extensive time doing assessments in schools and hospitals, looking to cluster children in various categories based on …

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When we deny our human nature

Another learning in my work has been that in our programming to deliver, achieve and perform we are trained to become perfect human beings and we forget we are evolved animals tormented by drives, instincts, needs, obsessions, fantasies, also conscious and unconscious desires. Since our early years in life, we are told to deny our inner experience and we are expected to control and restrain ourselves. The pretense becomes our natural way of being and we lose sense of our authentic self and what is really meaningful to us deep down in our hearts.   Our unstable human nature gets polished in sophisticated mindsets and behaviours and we insist on being recognised as unique to the point where we forget how similar we are in how we experience life. In our modern world, human personality gets understood through standardized tests and not through our human adaptive nature. We forget that all …

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Why do we want to be perfect?

One of the most frequent problem the clients face in their struggles in life is the desire to be “perfect” and it is not hard to understand why. Family, school and the world around us teach us early in life to be perfect, to compete and win all the time. This can bring extreme pressure in our lives, yet we do not ask: who is perfect? Does perfection exist or can it be achieved by us people?  The way modern life is organised keeps us all under scrutiny, fearful of being penalised for our errors and focused to enhance our strengths and improve our shortcomings. It is not nice to live under constrains all the time, yet we carry on following the crowds and swallow our distress.  My life and work experience showed me that many people suffer because of the positive and negative reinforcement existent in all aspects of …

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Understand your human nature in 15 steps

▽ We, people, are just like the nature around us. ▽ Like the sea, we are at times calm and relaxed, and other times agitated and furious. ▽ Sense the air… it is warm sometimes and cold or freezing other times… we people are the same. ▽ Look at the trees around us… they grow all sizes, shapes and colours, and we, people, are the same. ▽ Nature is beautiful and survives despite its calamities. In the nature, everything is in movement and is continuously changing. In the same way, we people live dynamic inner lives that change constantly our physiological sensations,  spiritual mantras and mental states. ▽ Our emotions can raise the height of the mountain and fall the low of the abyss. They can fly the wild flow of wind and sit in the stillness unmoved. Our inner life can scream louder than the volcanic eruption or be as silent as the quietness of the forest. …

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