Self

What does it mean to take care of ourselves?

Have you ever thought that maybe part of your suffering and troubles in life reside in the way you see yourself in the world and how you take care of your self in our wholeness? Let me share what I’ve learned from life and work over the years. Since we are little, we each develop our own understanding of taking care of ourselves, most times learned from our families and those in the immediate world around us. For some this is about being safe and having a shelter to protect them from rain, sun and storms. For others is about being vigilant to defend from accidents and having food of the table. Most of us will understand by taking care of ourselves to be safe in the outer world and satisfying our physiological needs which is clearly essential for survival, but it is only part of the story. Body. Your …

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1st step to reconnect with your real self

A few nights ago we spent an amazing time in a cosy seminar & cocktail gathering at Marbella Club Hotel where we spoke about finding and holding onto happiness.  Participants loved the conversation and asked a few relevant questions:  – Does happiness come from within or from the outer world? And how do we reconnect with ourselves and the wonderful resources we all hold inside?  I am happy to guide you in this area, so today I will be giving you a tool to make the 1st steps towards reconnecting with your real self.  Here is a short mindfullness session I developed over the years learning from what’s working and not in the field of guided meditation. Practice this every day or as often as you can do it and you will see huge improvements in your wellbeing in a short space of time. After you learn to be in touch with your mind, body …

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When we mistake the feeling of “loneliness” with the feeling of “aloneness”

LONELINESS is a topic present very often in my work with clients and I thought I’ll share some of my work experience and learnings with you. I worked with the young and in worked with the mature. I worked with the Westerners and I worked with the ones from the East. I worked with the yellow, dark and fair skin. I worked with the poor and I worked with the rich. And nevertheless, I worked with people from a broad range of occupations and educational backgrounds. All, without exception, have struggled in life with the feeling of being lonely. My learning has been that money, possessions, titles, achievements meant nothing when the person sat with themselves looking into their inner mirror. Let me present you with 2 short case studies to bring some light in that.  He is 36, entrepreneur, handsome, successful, a sought after bachelor surrounded by girls and having a …

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Self-compassion can transform your life

I am one of the people that has learned about self-compassion at adult age and like me, most if not all my clients. None of us can remember our parents sitting us down to teach us self-compassion and we can’t remember school having this conversation with us. So, when I meed people that struggle with this I have the understanding and genuine empathy towards them. The following case studies will show us how this early life deficit can impact on our adult lives. She’s 29. Sensitive, sad and desperate. Her anorexia is unmanageable now. The boyfriend left. Her creative career is threatened. Family lost patience, the friends have given up “rescuing” her, all relationships seem to have broken down. She cries softly. “There’s nowhere to go from here…” she says. “Nowhere”, I ask? Silence sets in. He’s 36. Quiet, embarrassed and hesitant. He lost his job. 15 years of hard work and a …

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2 case studies about forgotten dreams and aspirations

She’s 38. Beautiful, educated, successful family business owner, single. She speaks with passion about her work and all her achievements and how proud her father is to see her taking over the CEO role from him. She has everything she needs, well almost everything: she is lonely sometimes. I wonder why. She reads my mind and tells me: “there is too much to do, that’s the problem”. Her diary is full every day, including Saturdays and Sunday.  It reminds me of me a few years back and same as my supervisor once did, I ask her “When do you rest? When do you chill out?”. She mentions her long lunch “breaks” for business meetings, her monthly massage and beauty session and her business trips which are “almost holidays”. From the outside it looks like an amazing life, but her eyes are sad and her voice is shaking a little when she talks about her dreams. “I’m approaching 40 and …

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