The figures behind Coronavirus speak

There are many questions unanswered regarding the coronavirus: – How do we contact it? – What is the incubation period? – What are the symptoms? (as people describe various symptoms or no symptomatology at all) – How long is the virus active in humans? – When can an infected person contaminate others? – When does an infected person test positive? – Do we become immune after recovery? It has been suggested that the coronavirus has an incubation period between 7 to 14 days, but the small number of recovered cases over the past 3 months and the pattern of spread seems to suggest a different picture altogether. In China the epidemic started somewhere in Nov and it was made public at the end of Dec 2019. They imposed a strict lockdown (blocking people’s doors by welding from the outside apparently) on 23rd January and had the peak of the outburst …

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3 tips to manage stress at the end of the year

Everybody seems to get a bit tense and agitated towards the end of the year. This is by far the most challenging time of the year, with the highest break-ups and divorce rate, with conflicts and significant strain on relationships, with the desire to have a “perfect”celebration”, with accidents, excesses and life crisis. It’s a fact of life that at the end of the year the stress levels tend to get higher. We’ve had amazing times, fantastic achievements, we’ve created wonderful memories, but we also accumulated distress, losses and unfulfilled dreams And on top of this we face the excitement and the anxiety of the festive season. Shopping, presents, travelling, reuniting with family and friends, with people dear to us and people less welcome in our lives. They create a cocktail of emotions that can keep us tense and worried. So here are 3 tips to manage the stress at …

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Do you think you are an anxious person? Read this

15 years ago I wrote a dissertation for my CBT masters course investigating the efficacy of the integrative psychotherapies in the treatment of anxiety. It’s a long time ago and many changes have happened in the world since. Yet, what I see unchanged is how anxiety affects people. So, I’ve been asking myself what is actually happening? And the answer I received at the end of my reflection was that the more I work with people suffering from anxiety the more convinced I am that anxiety is not an illness for 1 in 4 people, it’s actually a state we all experience sometimes to different degrees. What we all experience to a smaller or a larger extent is the innate fear any living species will feel naturally as a way of navigating through life. Fear is what help us survive and thrive because it helps us concentrate, stay alert, pay …

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Do you find therapy scary?

These are the most common reasons that scared my clients to start the inner work: 1. Some tried it and it did not work. They got scared before they had the chance to get some meaning out of it. Or, they were not ready at that time for that level of exposure. Luckily, some do not give up, they tried again. 2. Others never tried it and imagined therapy was what they saw in the movies. They were right to doubt it as our profession has not managed to remove the many myths surrounding it in more than a century, but they gave it a go and in the end therapy has really transformed their life. 3. There were some that believed in the medical model and thought people were either mentally healthy or mentally ill. They were wrong and in the therapy process they understood that our mental wellbeing …

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Letting go of fear as a parent

Conditional validation makes children feel worthless Children learn very early in life to live under pressure. They have to behave, learn fast, know the right answer, be the best, win, never fail, in other words they have to be perfect children. School, as well as us, families, believe that we will nurture great qualities in our children and will help them become extraordinary individuals if we monitor them closely and correct their mistakes step by step. Children learn from their first years of life that making errors will upset their parents and will make their teachers mark them down, and this is how they start doubting themselves and experiencing fear and anxiety. This is how children learn that those around them love them and give them treats only when their behaviours are satisfactory to the adult world, which tells their little minds that they cannot be liked, loved and appreciated …

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