the EXPANSIVE PSYCHOTHERAPY
a brief look at my professional identity and how I work
As a psychologist trained in a variety of psychotherapeutic approaches I look at mental health and human existence from a broader perspective.
WHY DO WE SUFFER IN LIFE?
I searched to answer this question for half a century now. During the first 3 decades of life I searched at an informal level as a survivor of childhood trauma. For the past 20 years, I did a steady formal search throughout my studies, clinical work and practitioner research.
In my youth I believed that our suffering comes from people who are either good or bad. As a young psychologist and therapist I then believed in the medical model and split people into mentally healthy and mentally ill based on genetic inheritance and chemical unbalance theories.
None of these theories survived the test of time though. They were invariably contradicted by the experience in my clinical and research practice and I would have still been lost in confusion if it weren’t for 2 separate incidents to happen.
Firstly, I realized that the psychotherapeutic models are limited when used on their own and I started to integrate them and look at human life from a holistic perspective giving consideration to the bio-psycho-social aspects of life.
Secondly, I went through my own personal journey in life, with both its blessings and challenges. As a childhood trauma survivor I tried all therapies possible and I even trained in most of them, keen to understand the concepts behind the various theories of mind and speed up my healing process. Invariably, each of them seemed to be working for a while, but the change was not lasting.
I was still searching when the suffering on my life path took me through a set of spiritual awakenings that helped me transcend the limitations of my physical body and my programmed tunnel mind. From there, I reconnected with my “wholeness” and then the change started to take place. Bringing my body, mind and soul together helped me enter a state of coherence and realize that for so many years I wrongly tried to make therapy work on the mind forgetting that the meaning of psychotherapy is in fact “healing of the soul”.
That insight initiated my real healing and real personal development process. I stopped learning by following others and I started to turn my attention within: to my inner experience, intuition and wisdom. That helped me understand my life script and unpack my personal history and traumatic past. The understanding led to acceptance. The acceptance let to surrender. The letting go led to integrating the learnings and extracting meaning from my pain. The learning led me to forgiveness. The forgiveness facilitated healing. The healing created the transformation I was looking for and brought me a sense of liberation and personal freedom.
In time, I implemented my learnings in my work and the results were great. Using my 7 steps of real transformation system and the other tools I created on the way helped my clients to expand and transform their lives too.
I LEARNED THAT Suffering has a multidimensional source
Today, I take a trauma-informed approach to healing as I have learned that abuse, neglect, inequality, discrimination, other adverse childhood experiences (ACE) also family and cultural conditioning are beneath our pain and suffering and they can lead to anxiety, depression, addictions and other afflictions. My paradigm is that human suffering has a multidimensional source and includes both our inner and outer worlds:
1.Pain comes from the identification with your physical body and the form, the material world and everything it brings into your life: materialism, consumerism, competition, the performance culture, the “never enough” syndrome, etc. In reality, you are much more than your body and all the labels the society placed on you.
2.Pain comes from the identification with your mind. When you were born you had no mind, only a brilliant brain that could be programmed. The family, the school and the culture around you programmed you to function in a certain way and to grow specific beliefs, values and behaviours. The initial programme – your Ego – is a tunnel mind and lives in the darkness of your mentors, but you are much more than that conditioning.
3.Pain comes from the disconnection from your soul and the invisible field of energy surrounding you which is the source of everything. Lack of awareness and mindful living keeps you identified with your body and your Tunnel Mind, functioning on low levels of consciousness, in fear, greed, envy, hatred, deceit, and negativity. Luckily, you can elevate your being and operate from a higher frequency defined by love, care, compassion, acceptance, tolerance, gratitude and forgiveness.
4.Pain comes from the environment. From your relationships with your family, the other people and the world’s forces surrounding you – universe, earth, nature, ecosystem, social systems (politics, economy, job market, science, social justice, digital technology and AI, religion, etc.) as well as their institutions, norms, laws, customs and traditions. There are powerful outside forces influencing your life, but the authentic power lies in your responsible and intentional choice to create a life aligned with your real Self.
How I work
In my work I take a holistic and integrative approach to mental health and I believe that the solution to our healing is not exclusively in the 100 year old therapeutic modalities which have not managed to prove their undisputed effectiveness.
It is a fact of life that we are multifaceted beings therefore in my work I use a multidimensional approach that heals your mind as well as your body, spirit and environment, all at the same time.
My studies, clinical work, practitioner research, social and personal life experience have shown me that we need to consider the body-mind-spirit-environment equally when we explore our mental health. As a result, I look at my practice as being an expansive psychotherapy method, building on the traditional paradigms.
The expansive psychotherapy is a 4-dimension bio-psycho-social-spiritual approach to self-discovery, healing and personal growth that takes a 360 degree view on life and offers a complete life transformation.
The Expansive Psychotherapy
A progressive, holistic and integrative therapeutic modality expanding on the old paradigms:
Psychology to help you understand how the human mind works.
The 3 most significant psychotherapeutic schools of thought (psychodynamic, humanistic, cognitive-behavioural) to help you understand your personal history since you were born and how you developed to this version of you.
“It is time we take psychology and psychotherapy out from isolation and the expectation to hold the absolute truth about human life and human suffering. Psychology and Psychotherapy have not been able to answer all our existential questions on their own, but they become powerful voices when we explore them in conjunction with other disciplines” ⁓ Nicoleta Porojanu
Anthropology to help you understand your origin and the life script assigned to you before you were born, and to figure out what shaped you into the human you are today.
Epigenetics to help you understand how your inner and outer environment influence your health through gene expression down to the level of your 50 trillion cells.
Quantum physics to help you understand that you exist in an infinite field of energy which is the source of everything and the matter represents only a billionth part of the entire universe.
Eastern spirituality traditions to help you cultivate a mindful living and connect with the infinite conscious awareness to transform your life the way you want.
Logotherapy to understand how you can extract meaning from your pain and life experience, and identify and connect with your life purpose and what really matters to you.
Transpersonal psychology to permit yourself to transcend your programmed Tunnel Mind and allow your intuition to guide you through the process of real healing and personal development.
Who is tHIS for?
◘ Awakening Seekers like you on their quest towards meaning, purpose and happiness. You are intentionally seeking to access higher levels of consciousness.
◘ Curious and inquisitive deep thinkers/feelers like you committed to their personal development. You crave freedom, liberation and expansion.
◘ You wanting to grow through your own experience not by following other people’s ideas. You are fed up with the status quo and are tired following the crowds.
◘ You that have been through trauma (transgenerational trauma, ACEs, adult trauma) and are longing for peace and connection. You are open to self-discovery, healing and transformation.
◘ You looking to know why you suffer and not how your suffering is called (diagnosis). You embrace a holistic view of life and want to heal in your wholeness.
◘ Your searching to resolve the cause of your suffering not just to improve your symptoms. You are ready to extract meaning from your suffering and share your wisdom with others.
What to expect From an expansive psychotherapy programme
►Expect to embark on a revealing journey of self-discovery, healing and personal growth.
►Expect to be guided through an original and flexible therapeutic approach.
►Expect to be explained all along the theory behing each concept, notion, therapeutic instrument and method of implementation.
►Expect to be left with some self-therapy tools you can use on your own if needed in the future.
►Expect to make sense of your life experience.
►Expect to reconnect with your inner world (body, mind, soul) and your outer environment (family, others, world).
►Expect a relationship review across your 4 relationship circles.
►Expect a cleansing of your 3 entangled minds.
►Expect to re-evaluate your essential values for a meaningful life.
►Expect to refresh your identity and return to your wholeness.
►Expect to become familiar with the 7 Steps of Real Transformation framework:
UNDERSTAND what happened before your were born (your life script) and what happened after you came to life (your personal history).
ACCEPT what cannot be changed and stop resisting what is. Change what you can actually control.
LET GO of the attachment to the past events that bring nothing good in your life. Release the emotional tension, but keep the memories alive.
LEARN by integrating your life experiences into your present life. Find their meaning and learn the lessons they brought into your life.
FORGIVE all those that have wrong you and forgive yourself, too. Make amends and earn other people’s forgiveness as well.
HEAL your heart and soul. Set free the pain and suffering you trapped into your body, mind and soul to create space for renewal and liberation.
TRANSFORM your life and welcome your real self. Open to happiness, become the person you want to be and create the life of your dreams.
Most importantly, expect to go through the core essentials of personal development and be able to find your own answers to the 6 most fundamental existential questions:
- What are you made of? Know your body, mind and soul.
- Where are you coming from? Take a sharp look into your human history.
- How did you get here? Explore who and what made you who you are today.
- Who are you really? Find and connect with your true self.
- Why are you here? Clarify and reaffirm your purpose in life.
- Where are you heading to? Time to plan and act on your dreams and aspirations.
In a few words expect to AWAKEN to the true nature of reality and your existence!
Do you want to explore how the Expansive Psychotherapy can help you transform your life?