Another learning in my work has been that in our programming to deliver, achieve and perform we are trained to become perfect human beings and we forget we are evolved animals tormented by drives, instincts, needs, obsessions, fantasies, also conscious and unconscious desires.
Since our early years in life, we are told to deny our inner experience and we are expected to control and restrain ourselves. The pretense becomes our natural way of being and we lose sense of our authentic self and what is really meaningful to us deep down in our hearts.
Our unstable human nature gets polished in sophisticated mindsets and behaviours and we insist on being recognised as unique to the point where we forget how similar we are in how we experience life.
In our modern world, human personality gets understood through standardized tests and not through our human adaptive nature. We forget that all people have the good and the evil in them, in the same way they have the beauty and the ugliness, the peace and the conflict, the calmness and the distress, the confidence and the uncertainty, the health and illness, and so on.
We’ve been trained to follow polarised views and we think in terms of extremes, at times unable to see what is happening in between. This way we fail to acknowledge that everything comes in a pair in this universe, down to our genes and unique DNA.
Now, coming to a more pragmatic level, I have been asked many times how can we embrace our human nature? How can we live with the fact that we are animals? The funny part is that, whether we accept it or not, we already live with that experience, it is as undeniable fact of life.
What many people miss is that accepting we are evolved animals is not necessary negative, but on the contrary. It allows us to understand our nature, our instincts, drives and desires and it enables us to reach awareness of what is going on inside us. This connection with our inner life makes us powerful and able to manage our reactions, responses and the overall interaction with the external world.
Denying or ignoring our human nature is a defense mechanism and can do more damage than help on the long run. Embracing our human nature is a sign of strength. It does not mean to unconditionally accept our unpleasant facets of our being or to act on all harmful drives, but to acknowledge them, to understand them and to change them into more positive and helpful actions.
This is the space where personal growth takes place and this is the wisdom we capture through self-discovery and acceptance.