Relationships are sources of joy, happiness, connection, fulfillment, stability and safety, but very often relationships are complicated.
Our lives are constantly marked by inner and outer conflicts. It is in our human nature to oppose others, to feel mistreated, prejudiced, discriminated or victims of micro-aggression, to face misunderstandings, lack of communication, frustration and annoyance in our encounters with others.
We struggle with our family, friends, couple life, school, work, neighborhood, members of our local community, also members of various social, religious and political groups, and they can all leave an impact on our wellbeing.
Couple relationships can be in particular difficult. They involve love, infatuations, sex, desire, jealousy, betrayal, insecurity, and when the communication is poor and partners carry within them unhealthy patterns of behaviours form their past it can become really hard to manage.
UNRESOLVED CONFLICTS LEAD TO ILLNESS
Relationship issues are complex. They cross the border of social norms and indoctrination and involve commitment, responsibility, trust, love, respect, and many other values and expectations that are culturally conditioned and make the conflict resolution difficult.
Some of my clients have dealt with their conflicts appropriately at the time, but many have brushed them under the carpet, using all sort of defenses and distractions to ease their inner pressure and suffering.
Most times the conflicts were not discussed properly, and the emotions associated with them were not fully processed to ease the distress and preserve wellbeing.
Left unfinished, these unprocessed emotions have added to the weight clients carried within their souls, minds and bodies and made their movements through life slower, painful and dissatisfying, regardless if they were aware of it or not.
All the people I worked with wanted to feel heard and understood in their relationship, however the fast dynamic of a relationship involved power and control and clashed with the hope for harmony and the history of being in a relationship that both partners brought with them in the relationship.
WELLBEING BEFORE YOUR EGO
The most difficult conflict you’ll have to handle will be however your internal life, the relationship you have with yourself. This will define the relationships you develop with others and the world around you.
If you live your life by default and practice little or no awareness at all, your relationships might be just as troubled as an ocean storm.
There will be times of awakening that will trigger identity confusion and a variety of negative emotions and, as a result of that, you might experience existential questions, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, low sense of self-worth, lack of motivation, procrastination, self-harm, etc.
The myths that “all troubles will be gone tomorrow”, or that “issues resolve by themselves” make the matters worse and add to the consequences you will have to face in the future.
A good way to manage problems in a relationship of any sort is to acknowledge those problems and create time and space to sort them out. Don’t forget that at stake is your wellbeing, which is more important than any ego, ambition and principle in life.
My Online Wellbeing Packages are very efficient if you have a really busy schedule and want to explore your relationships from the comfort of your home or office.
My Exclusive Wellbeing Retreats are 4 unique and powerful intensive programmes that help you achieve quick, solution focused and permanent life changing results in your relationship area and beyond.
My Corporate Packages are also very helpful in times of career challenge doubled by relationship difficulties and have improved the wellbeing of many busy creatives, entrepreneurs and business executives, and many others.