What does it mean to take care of ourselves?

Have you ever thought that maybe part of your suffering and troubles in life reside in the way you see yourself in the world and how you take care of your self in our wholeness? Let me share what I’ve learned from life and work over the years. Since we are little, we each develop our own understanding of taking care of ourselves, most times learned from our families and those in the immediate world around us. For some this is about being safe and having a shelter to protect them from rain, sun and storms. For others is about being vigilant to defend from accidents and having food of the table. Most of us will understand by taking care of ourselves to be safe in the outer world and satisfying our physiological needs which is clearly essential for survival, but it is only part of the story. Body. Your …

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How to manage relationship tension in quarantine

Many people feel challenged in their relationships during this pandemic. There is no doubt that being together all the time is unusual for some of us and demands for new ways of  being and new ways of living. How do we cope when the stress levels are going up? What do we do when there is conflict and the tension intensifies? Some people manage it easier, but others are struggling. Who does well during these times? Families that talk to each other. Those that communicate and keep the dialogue open do well. And those that are honest and transparent in their communication do even better. Why? Because they don’t just pile up on tension and unresolved issues. They deal with their problems as they happen. For many couples and families this confinement is one of their most challenging times. One of my clients, 29, describes it exactly like this: “We’ve …

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Technology is ravaging our relationships

At the beginning of 2020 we were already highly digitalised, but the Coronavirus pandemic has changed our relationship with the technology even further. The stories I hear from people are worrying. Parents struggle more than ever to mind the children 24/7 and the mobile phone/tablet babysitters are now common sometimes from the toddler age. Many kids have their own phone or tablet for games nowadays and adolescents also spend excessive time alienated on their devices every day.  It must be really hard to parent children these days. My son is a millennial, he’s 30 now and when he was young there was not much available in terms of technology, but today it’s a completely different story. Some parents does not monitor children’s internet usage or keep the parental control switched off and allow them to browse freely on the web. Combined with the lack of communication and guidance, this invites children …

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Life in a world “on pause”

There comes a time in life… When we are questioning what brings meaning and purpose to our lives, When we feel deep inside you that life could be much more than this, When the truths we’ve been holding onto are harshly shaken, When following our idols makes us forget our own stories, When we hit massive setbacks despite our hard work and dedication, When we lack inspiration and we struggle to break through, When we care about what others think of us, When we struggle to understand the others and the world around us, When we feel tired of moving through pressure and conflicts, When we wish to nurture positive and satisfying relationships, When we dream about healing our inner wounds, When life becomes so much more than just being positive, When we are confused about our direction in life, When we lose sense of who we really are, When …

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Is there a plan behind the coronavirus pandemic?

Spiritual teachings suggest that there is scope and purpose in everything that happens in this universe, that there is a lesson to be learned from any act of human kind or the nature around us, as horrendous as they might be. If there is meaning and purpose in any event that Earth will witness, then what is the coronavirus pandemic teaching us all? I will not follow any of the many conspiracy theories circulating nowadays in the world, but my own inquiry process. We have been given our mental abilities to reason, to understand and we are all equipped with everything we need to do it. We’ve also been given everything we needed to live well on Earth and we gave back to the Earth whatever we thought we should. Is coronavirus pandemic a coincidence or is part of a bigger plan? What could be the lesson this pandemic tries …

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The figures behind Coronavirus speak

There are many questions unanswered regarding the coronavirus: – How do we contact it? – What is the incubation period? – What are the symptoms? (as people describe various symptoms or no symptomatology at all) – How long is the virus active in humans? – When can an infected person contaminate others? – When does an infected person test positive? – Do we become immune after recovery? It has been suggested that the coronavirus has an incubation period between 7 to 14 days, but the small number of recovered cases over the past 3 months and the pattern of spread seems to suggest a different picture altogether. In China the epidemic started somewhere in Nov and it was made public at the end of Dec 2019. They imposed a strict lockdown (blocking people’s doors by welding from the outside apparently) on 23rd January and had the peak of the outburst …

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Going out during the Spanish lockdown

It’s Tuesday 30th March and I’m under strict lockdown in Southern Spain. I’ve only been out twice so far, in small outings, for shopping and rubbish disposal, but today, despite the tightening of the confinement I plan to go out again. Shopping, petrol station and rubbish should only take 30 min these days, but I am looking forward for this. Many people that are not in Spain now ask me why I don’t go out more often, to buy small bags a few times of week, for example. Well, it does not work like that. Firstly, I would expose myself and others unnecessarily. Secondly, the Spanish government and the authorities in Andalucia have made it clear that we should only go out for essentials and no more than once a week and if I dared to do differently they will find out. How? Guardia Civil, the local police and the …

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What might Coronavirus mean for our world and the humanity?

It is hard to look ahead into the future right now, but we can already see some trends that signal how the Coronavirus might shape the world and the humanity. Working from home at a large scale has created a precedent that will see more remote job offers available in the future.  Children schooling on digital platform will also change the way we look at the educational system. Feeling threatened by a small virus that can barely be seen under the microscope and is not even considered a living species by the scientists will remind us that, despite its significant developments over the past decades, medicine is still experimental. There could be a change in how we look at our humanity in the large universe. Encouraged by the advancement of industrial, technological and digital revolutions we, humans, have learned to believe that we hold supremacy in the cosmos. In the …

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How has Coronavirus changed the world

I am currently stranded in Southern Spain, 10 days after lockdown and I’m reflecting on my learnings from the Coronavirus pandemic to date. At close to 3 months since the Coronavirus Pandemic started, we seem to step out of denial and gradually accept the reality of our lives. Denial is a natural response in these circumstances as it protects us from suffering whilst our minds transition from a orderly life to a rather chaotic one. The facts are worrying: as I write today, over 400K people have been infected worldwide and more than 18K have been killed by this virus. On the reassuring side, over 100K people have already recovered around the world which reinstates a sense of hope in us, people. More countries are now imposing lockdown, although measures differ from one place to another. Many people wonder why do authorities take so long to impose strict rules. Probably …

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Diagnosed by Dr. Google

I thought I’d share with you a case study from my work with clients to raise awareness that sometimes in our need to understand what’s happening with us we rush into drawing conclusions and put labels on our thinking and behaviour that can be very detrimental to our wellbeing.                            xxx She wanted to see me as soon as possible. When I hear that request I am tempted to imagine an emergency situation and prepare for it. I see a young, beautiful woman, slightly shy (or perhaps embarrassed to reach out for help). She is articulate and has a very warm and engaging voice. I’m thinking that she would make a great radio host if she would speak with a bit more confidence. She has nothing to do with media though. She is an entrepreneur in the fashion …

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